Becoming the Liberated Lover
Stop performing the version of manhood you were taught.
Start living from the truth that wants to come alive in you.
A 1:1 coaching journey for men who want to reconnect to their body, their truth, and the kind of presence that makes intimacy feel real again.
This is for you if….
You recognize yourself in the Suppressed Lover and/or the Chasing Lover
You live in your head more than you want to admit.
Intimacy pulls you into shutting down, pleasing, performing, or losing yourself.
You long for deeper intimacy, but fear being fully seen.
You struggle to know what you really want, or to trust what you feel.
You want more honesty, more aliveness, and more of yourself actually there.
Something in you knows there is more available than this.
You want to stay with yourself in intimacy.
To feel your desire.
To know your real yes.
To feel what is true without leaving your body.
What Changes Through This Work:
This work is not about understanding yourself better. It is about learning to stay with yourself when intimacy gets real.
You begin to listen to your body, especially in the places that tighten, go numb, perform, or disappear.
When something uncomfortable, vulnerable, or unfamiliar comes up, many men automatically go into the mind, distract themselves, or pull away without even realizing it.
This work helps you slow that pattern down and build the capacity to stay.
To feel.
To remain connected to yourself a little longer.
That is what presence means here.
Learning not to lose yourself the moment something uncomfortable comes up.
The parts you push down do not disappear.
They keep shaping your desire, your connection, and your sense of self from the background.
You stop shaping yourself into who you think you should be.
You begin to feel what is true, own it, and express it.
People can meet you there because you are actually there.
That is what opens deep, honest intimacy.
How It Works
Becoming the Liberated Lover is a focused 1:1 coaching journey of five 90-minute sessions, held every two weeks so you can build deeper connection with yourself, your body, and your truth.
In our sessions, we work with what feels most alive in your intimacy, sexuality, or emotional life by tracking how it shows up in your body. This builds the emotional capacity to stay with yourself when something real starts to move.
Depending on what is needed, I may guide you through body awareness, breathwork, visualization, shadow work, inner child work, constellation work, tantric exercises, emotional expression, or relational practices. You also learn to recognize what happens in your nervous system, so intimacy becomes something you can stay with, not something you have to manage, avoid, or push through.
Practical details
5 x 90-minute 1:1 sessions
Every two weeks
Online or in person in Zandvoort
Available in English or Dutch
Guided audio practices included between sessions
WhatsApp support in between sessions
Investment: €1295 incl. VAT
Trauma-aware, consent-based, and paced with the body.
The deeper you connect with yourself.
The deeper you can connect to others.
Why This Work Is Different
You may already understand the pattern. But understanding it is not the same as being free of it.
Often the mind understands long before the body feels safe enough to let go.
The body keeps the score. What gets suppressed does not simply disappear.
It stays in the body, often felt as tension, numbness, contraction, activation, or other sensations. The mind may move on, while the nervous system is still holding what was never fully felt.
Many men learn to live around this by going into the mind, distracting themselves, or reaching for external stimulation.
This work helps you slow down, feel what is actually there, and bring attention, care, and presence to what your body has been holding.
When that happens, what was stuck can begin to soften, move, and release.
And for many men, being met in that process by me, in a clear and grounded feminine presence, becomes part of the shift itself.
Not because I fix it for you.
But because your body gets to experience something different: being met without judgment, without performance, and without needing to be anyone other than yourself.
That too is part of what helps the body relax.
You Do Not Have to Have It All Figured Out
Most men learned early that vulnerability, need, uncertainty, and big feelings were not fully welcome. So of course this can feel scary. Of course many men arrive nervous.
That is not a problem here. It is part of the process.
You do not need to come in clear, confident, or already in touch with it all. You get to come as you are. We start there.
What other men have experienced:
“Through our sessions, I made a profound shift: I now feel what I want. Instead of giving from fear or insecurity, I give from genuine connection. Denise keeps bringing me back to my body, every time. I’m still kind, but no longer from fear.”
— Bob
If something in you knows, follow that.
In a free discovery call, we’ll explore where you feel stuck, what you long for, and whether this feels like the right next step. It’s also a space to meet and feel whether we’re a good match.
Not ready for the full 1:1 journey yet?
A Desire Deep Dive is a single session to explore what is blocking deeper intimacy, desire, and connection, and to experience what it’s like to work with me.
I currently open 4 Desire Deep Dive spots per month.
Pictures by: Inspired by Being, & Annekaere.