LIBERATED LOVER
Come home to your body.
Come home to yourself.
A personalized, body-based coaching journey for men ready to stop pleasing & performing, start feeling, and experience real intimacy - with themselves and others.
Why This Work Matters
You might look like you have it together - the job, the drive, the confidence.
But inside, something feels off.
You’re tired of pretending you’re fine while a quiet loneliness eats at you.
You crave deeper connection, but often feel stuck in your head, unable to relax, unsure how to open, always trying to do it right.
Maybe you’ve tried to please, to prove, to perform, and still end up feeling unseen.
Maybe you’ve shut down because being vulnerable never felt safe.
You want to feel again, but you don’t know how.
You’re not alone in this.
And you’re not broken.
Why Work with a Woman
Many men were never shown what true safety and intimacy feel like, especially in the presence of a woman.
I offer that mirror of love, a steady nonjudgmental space where you can relax the masks and be met exactly as you are.
In our work together, I hold the feminine ground, attuned, present, and deeply human. So you can rediscover your capacity to feel, to trust, and to lead from the inside out.
This is not about fixing you; it’s about remembering the man you already are.
The feminine doesn’t fix you - she invites you home.
When you allow her inside of you - your sensitivity, your feeling, your body - you stop chasing her outside of you.
Wholeness begins there.
The Courage to Begin
Most men who come to this work are already successful in many ways.
Yet deep down, they know something isn’t working anymore.
They’ve been loyal to an idea of manhood that once kept them safe… but now keeps them disconnected.
It takes real courage to step beyond that. To admit that control, silence, or overthinking no longer bring peace.
To enter a space where feeling is no longer dangerous - it’s freedom.
Stepping into this work isn’t easy - it’s brave.
Every man who chooses to feel again is breaking generations of silence...
Who This Is For
You long for deeper connection but often feel stuck in your head.
You want to feel, but don’t know how.
You’re tired of pleasing, chasing, or shutting down.
You have success, yet something still feels missing.
You’re scared to open, but even more afraid to stay numb.
Maybe you think intimacy is about sex or touch, but what you’re truly craving is something deeper:
to feel peace in your body, to be seen and heard for who you really are, to relax into love without having to perform.
You just haven’t been shown another way…
What You’ll Learn
Build safety and trust in your body and nervous system.
Reclaim a sense of self-worth and self-love that doesn’t depend on others.
Express emotions and desires with grounded confidence.
Set clear boundaries without closing your heart.
Transform performance into presence, in love and in life.
Reconnect with your natural aliveness and authentic power.
Safety & Integrity
This work happens within clear boundaries and full consent.
It is clothed, trauma-sensitive, and rooted in respect for your truth and your pace.
Nothing is forced. Everything is welcome.
How It Works
You can choose between two levels of commitment:
❥ The 5-Session Journey — €1.595
A focused container to reconnect with your body, explore your emotions, and begin living from presence rather than performance.
Sessions are held bi-weekly, giving you time and space for integration between each meeting.
❥ The 6-Month Mentorship — from €2.495
A deep initiation into embodied intimacy and self-leadership (10 sessions).
Includes monthly payment options (€449/month) and ongoing support between sessions for integration, reflection, and practice.
Each journey combines somatic coaching, nervous system attunement, emotional alchemy, and intimacy work.
Between sessions, you’ll receive guided audio practices and embodiment exercises — designed to help you anchor what you discover in our sessions into your daily life.
Everything unfolds at the pace your body can trust, and I’m always open to tailor-making a journey that fits your rhythm, needs, and depth of commitment.
Sessions can be held in English or Dutch, depending on what feels most natural for you. I’m available in person and online, or a mix.
Results You’ll Feel
Calm confidence and deeper presence.
Freedom from performance and people-pleasing.
Emotional expression that feels natural and empowering.
Greater safety, intimacy, and trust in relationships.
A quiet sense of peace within yourself.
The deeper you can connect to yourself, the deeper you can connect to others...
When you know what you want,
and feel it in your body…
You stop reaching.
You start radiating.
That’s what makes others feel safe.
That’s what invites true connection.
About My Work
This is relational, somatic work. We don’t just talk about change; we experience it together, in real time.
Each session is a living practice of awareness, connection, and truth. You bring what’s alive: tension, emotion, desire, numbness, and we meet it through the body, not the mind.
The focus is always on your process and experience, not on physical exchange.
The work is fully clothed and centered on presence, embodiment, and nervous system awareness.
Sometimes, by mutual consent, we may include guided somatic or boundary-based touch to support regulation or integration, always within clear agreements and only when it genuinely serves your healing process.
I teach tools to access your body’s intelligence: breath, sound, movement, grounding, and nervous system awareness.
I also use shadow work, constellation work, and emotional alchemy to uncover what’s been hidden or suppressed.
Sometimes it’s simple: slowing down, feeling your heartbeat, learning to stay with sensation.
Sometimes it’s powerful: meeting grief, shame, or longing that’s never been safely met before.
This is the path back to aliveness through presence, safety, and connection.
Your body leads the way; I simply guide you to listen.
About Me
My name is Denise Kooij - a trauma-informed and certified Intimacy & Embodiment Coach (VITA Coaching, Layla Martin), trained in somatic facilitation, shadow work, and nervous system regulation.
My work is rooted in years of practice in embodied intimacy, de-armouring, and relational facilitation through HeartIQ, Live Tantra, and the Melting Method by Sunny Ju.
I’ve guided hundreds of men and women to reconnect with their bodies, emotions, and truth. Helping them reclaim safety, authenticity, and real intimacy.
My approach is feminine and grounded: I meet you where you are, reflect what’s true, and hold the space for what wants to move… with compassion, honesty, and precision.
This work is deeply relational.
Transformation doesn’t happen in isolation, it happens in connection.
In being seen, felt, and met, you rediscover who you truly are.
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The Lover Archetypes
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The Liberated Lover
“Before working with Denise, sexuality felt unattainable, disconnected, filled with self-doubt and struggle.
Through our sessions, I reconnected with my body, my emotions, and my natural confidence as a man.
What once felt blocked now flows with ease and presence.
I now experience love and intimacy that feel safe, deep, and real — without performance or fear.”
— Client, The Liberated Lover
The Invitation
You don’t need to be perfect to begin.
You just need to be willing to be honest, and to feel.
If your body knows it’s time to stop performing and start living from truth:
This is where the performance ends and your true presence begins…
Start Now - Be Your Own Liberated Lover
Begin with the Morning Pleasure Ritual - a free 15-minute practice to reconnect with your body and start your day from presence, not pressure.
This simple ritual invites you to slow down, breathe, and give yourself the attention you usually seek from others.
It’s a daily act of devotion to feel more, to soften the noise of the mind, and to remind your body that pleasure and peace are safe again.
When you start your day like this, you’re not chasing love, you’re embodying it.
Not ready to Book yet?
If something stirred in you but you're not quite ready to book a call
you can reach out here, or send me an email: info@denisekooij.com
Whether it’s a question, a hesitation, or just wanting to feel into it together,
your voice is welcome here.
Pictures by: Inspired by Being, Annekaere & Fine line Intimacy